Teaching spelling

I have to admit. I have never used a formal spelling curriculum in our homeschool. The first couple of years I tried...yes I tried to follow the curriculum. I'm not even going to say the two I chose as it wasn't the fault of the curriculum that we were unable to use them. Instead I found other ways to teach it using whatever curriculum we used for other subjects.

Math for example. When they were young and learning their numbers they also learned how to spell the numbers. When my daughter learned to tell time she also learned how to write the time. When she learned shapes she learned how to write the name of the shapes.

My son has learning challenges so most subjects do not come easy for him. I have tried teaching him to read using sight words and phonetically, and although it is a slow process, using both works for him. He knows how to read a majority of Dolch-sight words and now I am working on him learning how to spell them. While he is reading if he comes upon a word that cannot be sounded out (for example know) I write it on a 4x5 card and throughout the day I work on him reading it and spelling it for me.

With my daughter she has been a naturally good speller and when she does writing is when we work on trouble words. There are also a lot of free activities online to help with spelling. Last year I really liked trying out Big IQ Kids spelling program and this year we are using a different site that even includes online spelling tests. What's great about spellingcity is that you can make your own lists or use the ones that are already made. The learning is done through playing fun games.

Learning how to spell really doesn't require a lot of money or a formal spelling curriculum. It can be learned little by little while doing other kinds of  subjects. How do your children learn how to spell?

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Prader-willi syndrome awareness

The last 5 or so days have been a nightmare for my husband and I. Seriously. It's been a complete blur. I'm not even sure where to start. I have felt so weary...but today, as every other time of feeling powerless, God showed he was right there beside us.

A month ago A~man had to have a psychological evaluation done as it has been a couple of years and because he receives services through the state, and his yearly plan of care was coming up we were getting things in order. For reasons I still do not understand we did not get the results until last week. I was dumbstruck when I saw them. During the testing he was so cooperative for the 2-3 hours of testing, polite, and as appropriate as it is possible for him. We had thought that we were meeting the psychologist for the behavior part (this was more of an IQ/developmental test) at a later date. So to give the psychologist a heads up on some of the behaviors we experienced in the last couple of years he wrote them down as we do not like talking about them with A~man there. He is always listening and it cannot be good to hear a review of his past misbehavior. Especially since with PWS...some of them just cannot be helped! Also we filled out some types of questionnaire like tests based on his needs and behaviors.

As I said, for whatever reason we got the results last week when my husband went to fill out some paperwork at our service provider. They sat him down and told him. They told him that the psychologist recommended A~an be put in an institution. I am not in the least bit kidding. I have a few readers of my blog that know A~man and my family in person. Hopefully they will chime in and agree how utterly ridiculous this would be. This is something they did with children/adults with disabilities up until 30 years ago. Right before I was married I worked in an institution for a short time with the youngest they had and they ranged from 5-35. They were well cared for where I worked but to put my son and lock him away?

What was the Dr's reasoning? He said that he was a danger to my family. He has NEVER hurt his sister besides normal kid bickering and that is mutual and very mild. I have hurt myself a few times when I have had to restrain him. (disclaimer I am very trained! please never restrain your child without training.) In the past he has also slapped at me. That is spread out over the last few years and it's been over 6 months since that has happened. As a team my hubby and I have learned better ways to deescalate his behavior before it ever hits seismic proportions. We both work from home and we both share in the homeschooling and when one is weary the other steps in. It works for us. Evidently this Dr. hearing what we experienced came to the conclusion that we were merely treading water. Hogwash.

I won't say one of the particular behaviors that disturbed the Dr and our service provider. (unless you are a pws parent and want to know) The thing is the behavior can be common with PWS. PWSAUSA (Prader-Willi Syndrome Association USA) lists the problem on their resource page. The page I have linked is the basic facts wouldn't you think a psychologist and a service provider would KNOW this basic information?? Instead I feel like my husband was interrogated as if we had done something wrong. Fortunately we had been to his pediatrician at least twice for this issue and to another specialist to help with the underlying physical problem that caused the behavior. My husband ended up walking out in the middle of his meeting that day.

How did this affect us? We felt sick..and we were worried that the provider would call DSS thinking that we had caused his problem. I cannot remember the last time I heard my hubby sob like he did that night. Yes he sobbed! I do not remember the last time I have cried so much. We felt so helpless. What did we do? We gathered all of the information we could find about his issue at the PWSUSA website...and I found things in online medical journals. We became proactive and called his GAL (guardian ad litem) from when he was a foster child as she knows us well.(she became our advocate once again through this) We called his pediatricians and explained and got letters from them to give to the psychologist and service provider today. We got letters from a local merchant that knows our family well and from our pastor. Heck, we even called and talked to his old social worker from DSS! Just telling what they have observed from the A~man and what they observed from us as a family.

I didn't go today as I had to watch the kids but hubby went and he went fully armed. That includes a massive amount of prayer warriors and God was obviously right there beside him. What was there reaction? The service provider admitted he did not know hardly anything about PWS. I'm guessing all he knew about was the weight issues which isn't the main issue with the A~man. The psychologist also did a whole lot of back pedaling even though he said he KNEW PWS. We will not be using his report (we will find a different psychologist) but in the meeting he said that he didn't mean that A~man should leave our home. It was written down. Hubby left the 2+ hour meeting in peace...and brought that peace home to me.

I REALLY want to somehow make sure this doesn't happen to another PWS parent. Thankfully I knew that the particular behavior my son was having was pretty common because I was able to talk to a few wonderful fellow PWS parents on Facebook. I shudder to think what could have happened if my husband and I were not fully educated on the other issues that go along with Prader-Willi Syndrome. We would not have been able to advocate for him!

 Have I mentioned I LOVE my A~man???!!!

Homeschool geography club

For several years our family has participated in a local home school geography club. Each month throughout the year every family chooses a country to study about, and then present to the rest of the group. We have gotten so much out of this as not only do we learn about the country we choose, but we also learn from the other countries that the other families have been studying about.

Last year we chose Denmark! I had recently discovered a cousin online that still lives in the country that my paternal great grandmother came from. I have had so much fun getting to know my cousin and she was so helpful in helping us learn about the country of Denmark. She sent us lots of goody packages of a book about the country, a cookbook, flags, and the most amazing licorice I have ever tasted! I also must add that they have the cutest greeting cards I have ever seen.  They are like little cut-outs in pop up book fashion! Below is an example of a card similar to what we have received.

I gave both children certain things to work on that they would present at our club meeting. This has been a great way to work on public speaking! Surprisingly A~man, who is normally very talkative, tends to get nervous like his mama when it comes to talking in front of a group. Z~girl on the other hand is pretty confident speaking. It is so good for both of them though! 

Here they are talking about how one of our favorite toys, Lego, which originated in Denmark.

We also often play games with our friends (that originate from the country) and make food to share. When we presented on Denmark I made some Danish meatballs and also a type of mashed potatoes.

Brændende Kærlighed

This fulfilling traditional Danish meal was a very popular amongst poor Danish farmers for the simple reason that it is cheap, quick to make and very satisfying. We recommend you try it.

Serves 4

• 1 pound potatoes
• 2 onions
• 2 teaspoons chives or parsley
• Salt
• Pepper
• 2 tablespoons Danish butter
• ½ pound Danish Bacon
  
  

• Peal or scrub potatoes, and boil them for 20-25 minutes in unsalted water or until tender enough to mash
• Cut bacon in small cubes
• Fry bacon on frying pan, and place on platter with paper towel when done
• Chop onions, and fry them in the bacon grease
• Mash the potatoes and mix with butter and salt
• Serve the mashed potatoes with a mix of onions and bacon on top
• Sprinkle the dish with chives or parsley before serving

Tip: To make this Danish dish even better, serve with pickled beets on the side.

With today's technology there are so many different ways to learn about other countries without traveling. (although I would LOVE to go to Denmark one day!) Without technology I would most likely have never met my cousin from over seas. On the web you can learn through geography games , web searches, and we have found lots of useful information and videos at country specific travel sites.

There are so many different opportunities when you become involved in a home school group such as the geography club we belong to. Learning how to home school  goes way beyond sitting down at a table or desk. Becoming actively involved in the research about the country has really helped my kids retain it better.

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This school year is off to a great start!

Just this last week it dawned on me that after this next year we will be halfway through our homeschool journey. How can that be? Our first year started when A~man was halfway through his kindergarten year and we realized that homeschooling would be a better solution to me having the teachers call me to come pick him up everyday. Not to mention the three hour time out he had in his final classroom. Yes, a child with ADHD, autism and Prader-Willi was put in timeout for 3 hours. Z~girl joined our homeschool that following fall as she attended a preschool the spring that we started homeschooling. Homeschooling a child with learning disabilities has not for the faint of heart but I honestly would not have changed a thing!

We started back with official "school" in August and having a morning routine has helped the behaviors of both kids so much. We are pretty flexible/eclectic homeschoolers in the afternoon but having the morning planned out seems to equal us having a good start to the day. This year we have started using SpellingCity a lot more and I recently discovered a teaching resource page with all kinds of teaching ideas I plan on utilizing!

This is the 4th  year that we have been in a geography club, although I'm not sure what country we are going to do yet. Each month a family does a presentation on a selected country. In the past we have done Australia, Madagascar, and Dennark. It's a fun learning event plus great fun socializing with friends! We also have violin, P.E., soccer, special needs baseball, and a possible running club forming. Last year we were in a 4H lego club but we are trying to decide on remaining in that club. Oh and have I mentioned? Tomorrow we are getting a chicken coop! I have wanted chickens FOREVER. Phew...we have a lot going on and hopefully we won't have to weed any of the activities out but we may if it proves to be too busy. I treasure our times at home most of all.

What extra activities do you all participate in?

Always picked last...

I think everyone MUST at one time or another know what it is like as a kid to be picked last. (heck sometimes it happens in different situations with adults) There were many years that I experienced that as a kid. I was unusually tall for my age, skinny, and had two left feet. I remember standing there in PE just knowing...dreading being the last choice when kids had to choose team mates for a game. 

Today the hubby took both kids to a PE class that one of the homeschool groups we belong to has. Although I did hear from hubby that the teams were unfair, it sounded as if both kids had fun. But ever since getting home something was bothering Z. I just thought she was tired and a bit sunburned...but I also noticed tears every once in awhile.

After A~man was in bed she came to me and asked- Why is A~man always picked last??? Her heart was just crumpled. She then said - I was so glad that we got to be on the same team! My daughter has a heart of gold. She loves her brother deeply. Yes, there are times he completely pushes beyond her patience threshold and they do fight but they have such a deep connection. What does a mama say when asked that question?

I know it's just something that happens. Kids want the fastest, quickest thinking, athletic, and easiest to get along kid to be on their team. It's human nature to want to win. I get that. I told Z that I thought one of the many reasons God put A~man here is to teach others to be more compassionate, kind, empathetic, caring and patient towards others that are different. I really doubt he noticed that he was the last picked. Sometimes it is painful for even me to see (or should I say especially for me to see) that peers avoid him like the plague. Hopefully though, they will come out a lot better person in the end by the things they learn from being around someone with differences. Differences that make a child say things they shouldn't, do things without thinking,not know exactly the right way to interact, and not completely understanding a game.

I truly believe that people, kids included, can and will learn more from my son then they can ever imagine. Somehow in his uniqueness he is the teacher despite his challenges. Oh, and his sister? Part of what makes both of them such awesome little people (ok I can't call them little for much longer ;) is the result of what they have gotten from being such close siblings and friends.